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In this post I will attempt to answer a question that I believe many mothers are asking after reading the previous two posts, A question that is reverberating in their heads but no one else seem to be hearing it. As a matter of fact they prefer not to say it, because they are afraid that they will seem too simple, too different too human. Over these many years I have learnt that if one person has a question, more than likely a number of people have the same question. So I will ask me the question on behalf of Jane, Jean, Jennifer, Janice and Joan. Are children still considered gifts from God, if you were raped, or perhaps you were not raped, but un-married, what if he was married but to someone else at the time, What if it was a “one night stand”, what happens if I was tricked into believing he loved me, but after the baby came he found the exit sign? Are you saying that these children are still gifts from God?  As painful as this may be I must say yes they are.  Let us look at two key verses. The first of these verses we looked at in an earlier post.

I have read this verse in various translations and none of these translations had “some” before the word sons or before the word children. Hence these children are not set a part they are all inclusive.  The second verse that I want to look at is:
John 10:10 -The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have [it] more abundantly. (NIV)

The devil cannot give life, he can only destroy it. Satan cannot create he will try to make imprints of what is already created, the gift of life is something that he will never be able to do
To fully explain let me take you back to Christmas time. You have just completed all you’re shopping. Your gifts are wrapped neatly and hidden in the closet. Perhaps in Jane’s situation the intended person for the gift she had wrapped so nicely became so anxious that he just could not wait until Christmas morning and before you know it he peeked at the gift. Maybe in Jean’s case before she could get the gift in the closet some body grabbed at it and ripped the paper off without thought or care then walked away and left it exposed. For Jennifer, perhaps you both decided, why wait until Christmas day, let’s do Christmas earlier and together you opened your gifts. OK Janice, I get your situation, you both opened the gift before Christmas, but when he saw it, he decided that was not the gift he really wanted. Or perhaps in your case Joan you waited until Christmas morning, together you both carefully un-wrapped the gift and are both excited with what you see. Anyway somewhere along the line things started to become a bit tiresome, you did not realize that it would take so much work to maintain the gift, maybe you have to mow the lawn, do some painting, pay the bills and one person gets so tired and then decide I can’t do this anymore and walks away leaving you alone to take care of everything. In all these scenarios the fact that they were all gifts has not changed.  Consider this, these gifts themselves are inanimate objects, unable to talk, plea or refused to be exposed. They were completely defenseless.

Moving on is easier said than done. You however must move forward and start to reprogram your mind and ask God what is the purpose of this gift. How can these situations work for the good?  In my next post I will address the process of forgiveness, because we cannot effectively pray for our children with hearts full of un-forgiveness and bitterness.

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.  ⁴ like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth.  ⁵ Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.

Let’s try this: Father I thank you for this gift of motherhood. Forgive me for doubting your word. Help me to reprogram my thinking so that I will see my gift as innocent and not a contributor to how it was handle and the condition in which it arrived.  Help me to focus on caring and correctly using this gift in such a way to bring you glory and honor. Forgive me of the many times that I try to take out my aggression on these innocent children. Help me stop saying- “you are just like your no-good father” but to see them in your image as being fearfully and wonderfully made.  I ask for wisdom to grow them in such a way that they will not repeat these scenarios when they get older. Grant me the patience to move forward in Jesus’ name Amen.